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Valentine’s Day – the day that individuals are meant to express their love and affection for those they secretly admire. 

But how did this day come about and what is Islam’s view of it?



HISTORY
Valentine’s Day is said to originate from Roman history and is connected to a ‘saint’ named ‘Valentine’ who was sentenced to death on February 14th 270 CE. This pagan ritual has various different interpretations of how it came about. Some say St.Valentine secretly married single soldiers against the edict of Emperor Claudius II. Others link this holiday to the feast of Lupercalia - where men drew the names of women from a jar, like a matchmaking lottery. Meaning, Valentine’s Day at its roots, promotes adultery and promiscuous relationships which jeopardize the sanctity of a stable marriage.

Today, Valentine’s Day is meant to be the day on which you express your romantic secrets through anonymous cards, flowers, and chocolates. In elementary schools, children send love notes to all their classmates with candies attached. There seems to be an excitement in regards to ‘secret admirers’ and guessing who sent you the cards or flowers you find on your desk. Taking part in such festivities has now become an expectation, where you are required to give something special on Valentine’s Day.

VALENTINE’S DAY TODAY
We must remember that today, this is nothing more than a marketing gig - a way for companies to make additional revenue between Christmas and Easter when sales might otherwise be low. Businesses capitalize on this day to earn as much revenue as possible by offering customized products and services.

WHY NOT?
But what exactly are the downsides of this holiday? Why are Muslims told to avoid taking part in such a celebration?
  • Muslims should not take part in any Pagan practices – including Valentine’s Day and Halloween
  • We should not fall for this materialistic trap which forces us to buy roses and chocolates under pressure
  • Muslims should not have romantic relations with individuals of the opposite gender prior to marriage – contrary to the message that Valentine’s Day sends


This is not to say that Muslims should not express their love. In fact, Islam encourages strong bonds of love, brotherhood and sisterhood. We should direct loving words and actions; give small tokens of our appreciation to loved ones to uplift their hearts; and be loving and accepting of everyone. But, Valentine’s Day is the incorrect approach to take when expressing this love. As Muslims, we should have the utmost love for Allah, our Creator. Then comes our family, followed by friends and people we know.

Instead of Valentine’s Day, you should:
  • Express your love for Allah through regular prayer and good deeds
  • Express your love and gratitude to family and friends often
  • Pray for others
Overall, we as Muslims should not associate ourselves with man-made pagan festivals that have turned into superficial celebrations.

ISLAM’S VIEW

Islam teaches us that our love for our spouse should not be limited to merely a day. Instead, each and every day, you should express your love and gratitude for eachother. Do not allow yourself to be fooled by the promotion and materialistic emphasis on such holidays! You are more than just a wife or husband, entitled to receiving roses, chocolate and pearls on February the 14th of every year. You are to be respected, loved, and cherished each and every day – because that is what Islam teaches!
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Should Muslims celebrate Halloween? 
How is it perceived in Islam?
What can parents do to help?

These are just some of the questions I hope to answer in this post.


WHERE DID THIS HOLIDAY COME FROM?

Halloween originates from old Irish pagan practices. It was believed that on October 31st, supernatural forces gathered in the human world. Supposedly, the lord of the dead gathered all the souls of the dead from the previous year who dwelled in animals, and would announce which animal the souls would dwell in, in the coming year.

TRICK-OR-TREATING

It is said that if a household gives something to a costume-clad child, the dead will not harm their household.

ISLAM'S PERSPECTIVE

Shirk, Shirk, Shirk. (idolatry)

No matter how 'fun' this day may look to be, it is wrong for a Muslim child to dress up in a strange manner and beg at the door of strangers - even if it may just be for candy.

Halloween sends across the message that it is 'okay' to believe in witches, evil spirits, and satanic worship. By trying to please these dead spirits, as if, equal to God, it is definitely a form of shirk/idolatry. Moreover, Islam believes that spirits cannot come back from the dead, nor can they be reborn in any form (eg. animals) in this world. As a Muslim, do not try to mix in with the West and get embroiled in hidden shirk/idolatry.

The Qur'an says:
"When it is said unto them, 'Come to what Allah has revealed, come to the Messenger,' they say, 'Enough for us are the ways we found our fathers following.' What! Even though their fathers were void of knowledge and guidance?" (Qur'an 5:105)

HALLOWEEN TODAY

Nowadays, Halloween is a holiday that is being abused by older children as a way to frighten people in their homes, disrespect elders, and cause disturbances. Thus, Muslim children should instead increase their connection with God.

Many people start following practices that they see practiced in society without thinking. Carelessly, some Muslims parents let their children participate in these traditions without any thought to its origin. But as Hazrat Mirza Masroor Ahmad (aba) has stated, "any 'fun' that is based on shirk is to be avoided".

6 TIPS FOR PARENTS

It can be difficult for a child to fully grasp the reason he/she is not allowed to dress up or go trick-or-treating - especially in the West! Children see their classmates in costumes, and may feel left-out if they are unable to do the same. I've compiled a list of a few actions that parents can take, to ensure that they can help their children better understand the reason for not celebrating Halloween.


  1. Get The Facts - Parents should know where Halloween originated from and why it is harmful so that they are able to explain it to their children (I hope this post has helped with that!).
  2. Unity - Make sure you and your spouse are on the same page! The last thing you want is for one partner to be explaining the reason Halloween is harmful, while the other spouse counters their arguments!
  3. Explain the Facts - Children are smarter than you think! When children ask "why," a simple, "because you can't!" will not suffice! You need to explain all the facts, as stated in this post! 
  4. Accept Reality - Children will compare themselves to other Muslim families who perhaps do celebrate Halloween. It is important that you explain to them that every family does things differently, it does not mean their decision is right for your family!
  5. Get Their Mind Off Halloween - If you and your child agree, keep them home from school on Halloween. Instead, do activities with them to get their mind off of what they feel they may be missing out on. Remind them that they are not missing out on anything! 
  6. Build Up the Excitement for Islamic Holidays - Living in the West, it is hard to avoid the excitement for Western holidays. Sometimes it looks as if Halloween and Christmas decor is literally everywhere. It seems that everyone is talking about their costumes on Halloween or presents on Christmas. For this reason, it is important for parents to ensure that there is an excitement being built up at home for the children to know Eid is coming up. It is not necessary for you to spoil them with presents or adopt new traditions. However, don't make them feel as if the other holidays are 'better' just because they live in the West. 

I hope these tips are helpful for all the Muslim parents who are trying to teach their children the way of Islam!

May Allah safeguard us from getting caught in any form of Shirk, and may we avoid anything that displeases Him, Ameen.

Sources:
Friday Sermon - October 29th, 2010 - Hazrat Mirza Masroor Ahmad (aba)

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