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Finals can be hectic and sometimes it may feel as if they will never come to an end. Trust me, I've been there. With 8 midterms for 6 weeks straight, I basically studied every day for 1 month straight. I know how stressful it can be! Finals were no different. So, before finals roll around for secondary school students, I thought I would share a few tips and tricks to help you all make your way through them. These tips are not only for you to be successful in your exams Insha'Allah, but also for you to not lose track of what's important.

1) MAKE A SCHEDULE

I thought this was a fairly normal thing to do, until I talked to some people who thought I was crazy. 

"How can you follow a strict schedule?"

I guess being a Muslim, and having to follow a schedule ever single day (the 5 daily prayers) has something to do with it. For real! Prayer has helped me to self discipline myself in terms of what I should do and when I should do it. Keep in mind, your schedule cannot be 'Study from 7AM to Midnight', because you will never be able to stick to such a schedule. Make it realistic, reward yourself, and take breaks!

Start by creating an exam schedule for the entire week/month. For each day, write down the chapters for each course that you want to accomplish. My rule to divide up chapters for each course is as follows: If you have 10 chapters to study, and 5 days until the exam, study 2 chapters a day. Once you have this monthly schedule, you won't have to cram, and you'll know the minimum amount of studying you should get done each day. Once you have this, create a schedule every morning for the day. This should start from the moment you wake up to the time you wish to sleep at. In it, include the hours you will spend studying (with what you intend on studying from the weekly/monthly schedule), breaks, and meal times. This is a simple and effective way to keep your mind at ease, and not have to cram the night before the exam. I always get asked how I continue to make time to eat, sleep and everything in between, while staying on top of studying. Well, this right here is the answer to that!

2) DON'T CRAM

This goes hand-in-hand with what I stated above, scheduling. You've probably heard this a million times before, but cramming does nothing for you. It only leads to stress, and 

studying + stress = burnout. 

Try to plan out your time so that you start studying far in advance. Make your study load heavier early in the exam season because you will get tired of studying! Having fewer chapters to study closer to the exam date will be a huge weight lifted off your back! Make the day before the exam a review day! Don't spend that day studying the entire course! Remember, it's not about studying hard, it's about studying smart. 


3) PRACTICE QUESTIONS & FLASHCARDS


The more times we see something, the better our brain is at remembering it. This is why cramming will not help. You want to study in advance and review everything you've studied already each day. Seeing a definition or concept multiple times will help you remember it way better than if you cram. To do this, flashcards are a great way to go! Flashcards made by hand can work really well, but may take a lot more time if your notes are typed out. I love Quizlet, it's a great way for you to not only make flashcards, but turn those flashcards into multiple choice questions, true and false questions, games and more. It's a great method that I like to use when it comes to formulas and terms - things I need to memorize.


Also, use the resources given to you! Textbooks have a bunch of review questions and you can find so many online! Use these resources so that you can learn to apply what you've studied. Knowing a term is one thing, but comparing that term with similar terms, or knowing how to set it apart from similar terms is what will help you succeed. Nowadays, teachers/professors are no longer testing students on memorization. There's a lot more case questions and such, that require the student to know more than just the definition of words.

4) PUT IN TIME FOR GOD

Sometimes it feels like we don't have enough hours in the day to study, and so it can be quite challenging to make time to pray. However, I assure you, success without prayer is not the right kind of success. Incorporate the prayers into your schedule, start your day off with Fajr and give yourself an early start to your studying. Finally end your day off with Ishaa, and go to sleep. This will really help you get 6-7 hours of sleep! Pray and ask Allah for help! This is not only the best stress reliever, but it's also a good way to force yourself to get up and move. I don't know about you, but when I'm studying, I feel like I sit for hours straight just trying to get information in my head. To prevent your body from getting soar, get up, move a little, and pray. And if you're worried about time still, 5-10 minutes will not harm your studying! Trust me :) 

Some little prayers that are helpful for exams are:


رَّبِّ زِدْنِى عِلْمًا

O my Lord! Increase me in knowledge.

رَبِّ اشْرَحْ لِي صَدْرِي وَيَسِّرْ لِي أَمْرِي وَاحْلُلْ عُقْدَةً مِنْ لِسَانِي يَفْقَهُوا قَوْلِي

O my Lord! Expand me my breast; ease my task for me; and remove the impediment from my speech, so they may understand what I say.
I really hope these little tips help you plan out your finals week (or month) a little better, and I really hope you all succeed! Just remember, try your hardest and don't lose hope, one low mark doesn't ruin your life. Good Luck!

Please share and leave your feedback below, Jazak'Allah!

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Time management is a skill that, although takes time to develop, is a very crucial in managing our lives. Time is a limited resource, so no matter how we go about our day, there will always only be 24 hours. With time management comes reduced stress, leading to an overall healthier life. As well, time management allows us to accomplish more tasks in shorter periods of time, leaving more time for what's important.

So much of our days are spent doing things that are only benefitting us in this life, and not in the next. Think about your day. What did you get done today? You probably went to school and/or work, maybe spent some time socializing, homework assignments, preparing meals, eating, chores, showering, running errands etc. How much hours of your day is that? 11-12 hours? Maybe even more if you work full time, or attend University with lengthy hours. Then add to that, the time you spend sleeping, which could be either 7-8 hours for some, or 4-5 hours for those that are less lucky. So that leaves maybe 4 hours, which could have been spent watching movies, TV shows, or doing something that will benefit us in the life to come. Basically, what I'm saying is, there's so much stuff to do that occupies our day. But let's not forget our main purpose in life, that has been clearly given to us by Allah, "And I have not created the Jinn and the men but that they may worship Me" [Holy Qur'an Al-Dhariyat Chapter 51: Verse 57]. Keeping this purpose in mind, ask yourself, did I achieve this purpose today?

I'm often asked by friends and family how I remain so calm with assignments and exams as a full time student, house chores, photography bookings, as well as events and Masjid programs to attend. The answer is simple, I don't stress. I don't stress about the exam that I have to do, because I know whether I stress or not, my mark will be the same. All I can do is pray and study to my greatest capacity. I believe that there's no point in isolating myself from my family, social life, religious life, events etc. just to get homework and assignments done. Why would I spend my years in high school and University (8+ years) stuck in my room doing something that's only benefitting me in this world, all while putting my health, family, relationship with Allah and the Jamaat, etc. on the line. This is not to say that I don't spend time in my room studying, but I don't make this a priority. I come home from University and study, but I spend dinner time with my family, and weekends with my family or at the Masjid. 

This is why, I want to shed light on a few habits and management techniques that I like to apply to my life, in order to manage my spiritual as well as University life.



  1. Five Daily Prayers: Allah has given us timings that divide up our day so well. Fajr, (usually around 5AM or 6AM) is a great time to start our day. We can wake up, pray, and start the day by pleasing Allah and praying for a good day. Also, we can get done any homework assignment or task we have yet to do. Did you know that our brain cells are more alert at the break of dawn? Not only do we wake up with a fresh mind, but we also have minimal distractions at this time. Zuhr, is usually around 1:30PM, this being lunch time for students and working men/women, is ideal to pray and eat lunch. Asr, which is usually around 4-5PM is a time that most students and working men/women come home. This allows us to freshen up, and pray before starting homework or other tasks. Maghrib, falls around 6-7PM, which can be the time for us to take a break from studying or other tasks, and perhaps pray, and then eat dinner with the family. Then comes Ishaa at around 8-9PM, which can easily be read before going to sleep. By sleeping at this time, instead of studying till midnight, we can ensure that we wake up for Fajr, as well as get our work done in the morning. This is why, we should create our schedule around these prayers, they allow us to get more done, while accomplishing our purpose in life. 

  2. Monthly Schedule: For the most part, we know the due dates of our assignments, exam dates, and Jamaat event dates far in advance. This is why, having a planner or organizer is a great way to ensure that we have all of these important dates marked down. This way, we can have assignments done in advance, if we know that the assignment date and an event date clash. This is a great way to attend Jamaat events to gain knowledge, yet not fall behind on assignments. 

  3. Time Management: We must remember that most events at Masjid take around 2-3 hours. In these 2-3 hours, we not only get to learn something new, but we can also pray and socialize in order to keep our bond with the community. Now, if we make the excuse of not attending an event because we need this time to study and get other stuff done, we don't have our priorities straight. These 2-3 hours, when we are at home, can easily be spent watching TV or movies, talking to a friend, scrolling through social media etc. but we won't care. So why don't we give up these things that could easily add up to 2-3 hours and not benefit us, instead of the event that would add up to around the same time? Attending the Jamaat events is not only going to bring us closer to the Jamaat and Khilafat, but it will also help us build a stronger relationship with our Creator. So these 2-3 hours will in fact be an investment in the life to come, and not wasted at all.
  4. MSA & AMSA: I remember when I was in highschool, I spent around 6-7 hours there, 5 days a week. I was blessed with a Muslim Students Association (MSA), that had many services offered during school, allowing me to continue building on my spiritual life at school. On Friday's, Jumaah would be offered, and teachers had to grant any student that wanted to go pray, the permission for this short time. I would attend the Jumaah, listen to the Khutba which was very informative, and then not read Jumaah (behind the non-Ahmadi Imam), instead offer Zuhr (and/or Asr prayer). Also, MSA held several fundraising events, allowing me to give back to the community, and this was a great way to earn blessings. Later, in University, I joined the Ahmadiyya Muslim Students Association (AMSA), which is an amazing blessing at University. I not only got to meet many amazing Ahmadis from different Masjids, but now some of my closest friends are Lajna from other cities, which was a blessing when I started University not knowing many people who attended! Also, Jumaah is offered to the Lajna and Khuddam, enabling us to pray it, despite being at University at the time. Also, it has been a great platform for Tabligh, whether this be information tables or the organization of events, it has allowed me to gain so much valuable knowledge and share the teachings of Ahmadiyyat with others. I honestly believe that AMSA has been a blessing for me to keep a strong link with the Jamaat even while being at University. Moreover, the girls that I have met, don't bring me away from the Jamaat. Instead, when we're together, we go and pray together, and keep each other connected to Ahmadiyyat and on the right path. It's groups and opportunities like these that will help us in this life and the life to come.

  5. Prayer Areas: Most schools and universities have an area assigned for praying. I know at my University, there are prayer areas set up in libraries and other buildings, with prayer rugs available at all times for Muslims to go and pray. This has been a blessing for me with my lengthy University hours. It allows me to pray whenever I have time, in between classes, and not miss any of these prayers despite being at school. One thing I've realized is that the peace I get when I pray at school is different than when I pray at home. I'm more focused, and more relaxed. Perhaps this is because I set aside all of my school-related worries momentarily, to worship my Creator. Whereas, at home, it's not always as quiet, and there are many distractions. 

  6. Importance: I can give you many techniques, but the truth is, it all comes down to what we give more importance to. Remember, this life is a droplet, in the ocean that is the Hereafter. When we die, our education and careers won't be of any concern to Allah, instead it will be our prayers, our Tilawat, our good deeds etc. We must realize that, yes, an education and career can be important in a world that revolves around money. However, when we pray and develop a strong bond with Allah, our education and career will be blessed by Allah. As I've grown up, I've realized that my average in school has always been around the same, since the start of high school until now, and when I got closer to Allah, and started spending more time praying and attending/organizing Jamaat events, it reduced the time I was able to give to my education, however, my average didn't go down. Alhamdulillah! Meaning, Allah blessed my education, with marks that I may or may not have deserved.
We must educate ourselves, not to become rich, but to bring ourselves closer to our Creator, and some day educate our children with this education. Sometimes we make our religion a burden on us. Ugh it's time to pray. Another masjid event?! I don't want to wake up for Fajr! But our reactions should not be like this! Our religion shouldn't be a burden on us, if anything, it should help us take lightly, all of our burdens. The world will always have distractions. There will always be other things to do. But when these things come in the way of your prayer timings or Masjid events, ask yourself, will what I'm missing these events for, help me in the Hereafter? 

I really hope that these habits can be adapted in all of our lives, and we all realize the importance of our religious lives over our educational lives, Ameen! 

As University exams roll around, I pray that all of you do really well, and that your efforts are not wasted, Insha'Allah! I would love any feedback below on what I should improve upon, or what I should continue incorporating in to my blog posts, as well as future blog post ideas! Jazak'Allah!

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Answering the questions that come our way, in the best way that we can.

A lot of the times at school/university we are approached about certain topics of Islam, that we ourselves are unsure of the answers too. This causes us to make up certain reasonings based off of our sometimes limited knowledge of Islam. But we must remember that this uncertainty in answering the questions comes through as trying to hide something or making up an answer on the spot. But we are the ones who can redirect the youth to Islam, and if our answers are unreasonable, we may end up repelling people from Islam as opposed to attracting them to it.


Below are simple answers to the common questions that we tend to face:

WHY DON'T YOU SMOKE? IS SMOKING HARAAM?
The answer to this is simple. Smoking is not religiously prohibited in Islam. In fact, it isn’t stated anywhere in the Qur’an to not smoke. It is, however, discouraged due to its negative effects on health. Islam does’t place guidelines and restrictions on everything, some things are left for us to decide. It (Islam) has allowed us to choose whether we care for our health or not. 
WHY DON'T YOU (AHMADIS) PRAY BEHIND NON-AHMADIS?
If we look at history, many years back, the Mullahs in India didn’t allow Ahmadi Muslims to enter their mosques, and pray behind their Imams. The other Muslims were advised not to enter Ahmadi Mosques and pray behind Ahmadi Imams. They were told to beat up any Ahmadi found praying behind a their imams. For approximately 11 years, Ahmadis had to tolerate this hatred, which had gone to the extent of the other Muslims being forbidden from interacting with Ahmadis in any way. For this reason the Promised Messiah (Hadhrat Mirza Ghulam Ahmad (as)), directed his followers (Ahmadi Muslims) to hold separate prayer services in separate Mosques, to create peace. 

WHY DO YOU WEAR THE HIJAB?
We must remember that the purpose of our creation is to worship and obey Allah: "I have created men and jinn so that they may know Me and worship Me" (The Holy Qur'an, Chapter 51 Verse 57). We also know that the Qur'an is our Holy Book of guidance and commandments from Allah. Within these commandments is also the command of covering up:"And say to the believing women that they restrain their eyes and guard their private parts, and that they disclose not their natural and artificial beauty except that which is apparent thereof, and that they draw their head-coverings over their bosoms, and that they disclose not their beauty save to their husbands..." (The Holy Qur'an, Chapter 24 Verse 32). So we are simply following this commandment of Allah. 

WHY DON'T YOU EAT PORK? WHY IS PORK HARAAM?
If we look at the verse "He has made unlawful to you only that which dies of itself, and bloog and the flesh of swine, and that on which the name of any other than Allah has been invoked" (The Holy Qur'an, Chapter 2, Verse 174). We can see that pork is made unlawful for us due to it's negative effects on our physical, moral and spiritual health. A pig eats filth and lives in a dirty place (mud). As well, tape-worms, scrofula, cancer and encysted trichina are known to be more prevalent among people who eat pork. Even doctors and studies are now stating the negative health effects of pork. An investigation by Consumer Reports, stated that 69% of all raw pork samples tested, were contaminated with the dangerous bacteria Yersinia enterocolitica, which causes fever and gastrointestinal illness. To read the rest of the article please click here. But the verse also goes on to state that if a person's life is in danger (due to starvation) and the only food available is the one made unlawful, than the preservation of human life prevails. 

WHY DO YOU NOT DRINK? WHY IS ALCOHOL HARAAM?
If we look at the media today, there are many campaigns against drunk driving, and the increase in crime rates due to it. Overall, alcohol is now being seen as a very negative thing. We were instructed not to drink alcohol, because under alcoholic influence, we lose control over our actions and lack our mental capability of judging things correctly. This can easily increase our chances of making errors in judgement and decisions. Car accidents take place, because we can't judge the situation of the roads correctly. So if we can't control a car, how can we control things such as our rage, actions etc., while being under the influence of alcohol? Alcohol has more bad than good: "They ask thee concerning wine and the game of hazard. Say: 'In both there is great sin and also some advantages for men but their sin is greater tan their advantage'" (The Holy Qur'an, Chapter 2, Verse 220), and because of this, it has been forbidden. 


WHY DO YOU (MUSLIMS) HAVE TO FOLLOW SO MANY STRICT RULES AND GUIDELINES? 
I can't tell you how much times I have been asked this question. If you look within the Qur'an there is no guideline that has been set by Allah that doesn't benefit us in this life or the next. So to some it may seem as if we have a lot to abide by, but these guidelines all create peace and better our lives. Believe it or not, Islam isn't the only religion with rules. Every religion has rules, but many people allow society to make them believe that they no longer need to be followed. 

WHY AREN'T YOU GOING TO PROM? WHY AREN'T YOU GOING TO THAT PARTY NEXT WEEKEND? 
I decided to leave this question for last, as it truly goes along with many of the above topics that I touched upon. So think about a party/prom/dance. What do you do at these events?
  • Dress Up: All of these events require a girl to wear something that is revealing and tight because all the other girls are wearing it. But Muslim girls are supposed to be modest in every aspect. We may be wearing a hijab on our heads, but we are also showing off our body in a tight fitted dress. As well, Hudhur (aba) has told us girls to wear a coat up to our knees. But would you want to go to a party/prom/dance wearing this? No. So why would you get yourself into that situation anyways when you can perhaps get together with your girl friends and be more comfortable without sacrificing your modesty. 
  • Dance: What's a party without a little dancing? Or a lot of dancing. We all know that these parties always have huge dances. Once again, dancing is not allowed in Islam especially when you are in a setting where girls and guys are together. For this reason, Hudhur (aba) has even stopped dances from happening at Mehendi's since there are both guys and girls present. Even if you yourself may not dance, why would you want to go to a party, where everyone else is dancing?
  • Alcohol: Alcohol is usually always available at the bars in these parties. But, as I stated earlier, alcohol is prohibited in Islam. We shouldn't have to be around it either, as people can easily pressure us into drinking it. 
  • No Segregation: Islam practises segregation to protect both men and women from lusting over the opposite gender. We don't want to be in a setting where we can easily be influenced into thinking about the opposite gender, and being seen with the wrong intentions by someone of the opposite gender. 
If you were to go to a party/prom/dance while abiding by these guidelines of Islam, it would have to be as follows: wearing a hijab and burka, not dancing, not drinking, and not looking at the males with a bad intention. Overall, it would be a very awkward situation that I suggest no girl should have to deal with. Why not just invite a few of your close girl friends over, where you don't have to worry about your hijab and coat, and you can eat all you want and watch movies. Sounds like a way better idea to me!

In the end there are still so many questions that I haven't tackled in this post. However, upon doing a survey, these topics were the most common topics that were questioned upon. There is so much more information that could have been given on each topic, however I wanted my responses to be short so that when these questions come up in the future you remember the shorter answer as opposed to a huge answer that you will probably forget. InshAllah, in the future there will be longer, more detailed, posts on the above topics. So stay tuned! 

May Allah enable all of us to continue to gain knowledge about Islam, and show all those that cross our path, the true meaning of Islam, Ameen!

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I often get asked about the extent to which Muslim girls should free-mix with guys, and why it is so important to follow this Islamic guideline. Most of us live in countries, where the  free mixing of genders is a norm, and hard to avoid. Whether this be at school, college, work or even in public, the avoidance of the opposite gender as a whole comes off as rude and disrespectful. I know that we are taught to 'lower our gaze' in Islam, but we cannot walk the streets of life with our eyes directed towards the ground. For your own ease, I will break it down into parts:


INTENTION:
Now how many of you have ever said or heard: "I'm just talking to him, it's not like I have bad intentions or anything." We all have grown up knowing that intentions matter, and Allah knows our intentions. But just remember that your intentions may be right, but you never know the intentions of the other person. You all have most likely heard of Shaytan's evil desires. Unfortunately, Shaytan is always whispering things into our ears to misguide us. As well, science shows that the venereal desire and attraction to the opposite gender cannot be tamed by mere intention. It is something far beyond ones control which cannot be controlled by intention alone. The closer we get to the guy/girl, the harder it gets to stick to our initial intentions.

FRIENDSHIP:
"We're just friends," the typical reassurance every girl/guy gives to her/his friends. I'm not doubting anyone, perhaps you are just friends. But think about all the friends you've had in the past. Have you ever started to dislike them and realise that you don't like them as much as you had initially thought? Now think of it the other way around. That girl or guy that you never thought you'd be friends with-- did you ever end up actually getting along with them and becoming friends? The point that I'm trying to make is that, relationships change. Whether this be your group of girl friends, or your gang of guys. Just like this, you may think that you're just friends with a guy/girl but end up realising that you do like them. Like can change to love at any second. Sadly enough, we can't control our hearts from being attracted to someone. Especially when love is a word that floats around in today's society, where every other person has a girlfriend/boyfriend. We can easily get influenced. We are humans, inclined to liking someone of the opposite gender. It is only by taking this precaution of keeping a distance, that we can stop ourselves from developing something more from a relationship, that started as a mere friendship.

SCHOOL/WORKPLACE:
"I can't work with someone of the opposite gender," something, none of us want to say. Not only would it make us look rude but it would also make everyone think negatively of Islam. If you are told to work with someone of the opposite gender, for a school assignment or work. You can, but there are restrictions on what extent you can go to work with your partner/group. Try to get the assignment done during school time, so that the need to work after school doesn't arise. However, if it does, I recommend meeting in a public place (i.e. a library) to get the assignment done. It's best not to add the guy/girl on social media merely for the assignment, as you may end up never deleting this person from it, extending the 'partnership' for the assignment, far beyond what it should be. E-mailing an assignment back and forth is also a great idea. Just remember, don't let the conversation go beyond the assignment. Stick to the assignment!

SOCIAL MEDIA & ELECTRONICS:
Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Google+, Skype, Snapchat - how many of these do you have? With phones in practically everyone's pocket, it's hard not to wonder how you can have a phone with no social media. I'm not going to talk like your mother and say that you shouldn't have any form of social media, as that can be nearly impossible when electronics and social media are so widespread and used from school to the workplace. I can however say that how you use them goes far. You know that guy/girl that is 'just a friend'. Well they shouldn't be on your social media. Before everyone starts to use my Twitter account against me, saying that I follow guys and have guy followers. There is nothing bad in retweeting or favouring a guy's tweet. It's the direct messaging you have to be safe with, as you don't want to be messaging a guy/girl as that leads to a lot more than it should. 

Basically, we are surrounded by so much negativity in the world today that's misguiding us. We don't want to be misguided. We don't want to fall into this trap. For this alone, do I emphasise the idea of not being overly friendly with someone of the opposite gender.

May Allah enable all of us to stay guided and not fall under the influence of Shaytan, Ameen!

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